“Now I know I’ve got a heart, because it’s breaking.”

~ Jack Haley, The Wizard of Oz




“After a break-up, certain streets, locations, even times of day are off-limits. The city becomes a deserted battlefield, loaded with emotional landmines. You have to be very careful where you step or you could be blown to pieces.”

– Sex & The City


Most of us have been in a relationship that has turned sour and my guess is we’ve all felt the hurt that comes with that.

We feel miserable, depressed, and lonely. How do you move on from the heartache? It’s not easy, but it is do-able.

A good friend told me:

“It is not the end of the world. You are still going to wake up tomorrow and eat your bagel just like the day before and the day before that. Life is not over. You are still you and no one can take that away from you.”

She was right. 

Protected Heart

In the past I’ve protected myself against falling in love by holding a part of myself in reserve. I want the other person to go first. Once upon a time I wasn’t afraid to go first, to be the person who liked the other person more. There was a time when I was able to be brave. And then I got damaged and I wouldn’t go first anymore. So I stayed aloof, kept a part of me separate and always watched the other person for signs that would let me cut and run away. It has protected me from getting hurt again. But I think it protected me from finding real love too.

Love Disaster

If you never met me, I wouldn’t be going through this. But since you met me, I’ve changed for the better.

So is knowing you a disaster or a blessing? I guess it has done the bad and the good, because when I met you, I fell in love. You led me to the highest of heavens then you led me to the depths of hell. You brought me love and happiness then you brought me sadness and despair.

You showed me care with love and you showed me ignorance with annoyance. You said ” Please give me a chance “ and then you said ” Just give it up”.

What do you expect? For me to endure all this? All this hurt, pain and cruelty? All this Disaster? No. I won’t even glance at you with my eyes. I will only walk away with a cold heart.

Because you taught me how to ‘ IGNORE YOU ‘
Because you taught me how to ‘ GIVE UP ON YOU ‘
Because you taught me how to ‘ TREAT YOU A LIKE STRANGER ‘
Because you taught me how to ‘ BE ANNOYED BY YOU ‘ 

– Source Unknown

Love Is a Lie

I don’t believe in love anymore. I once was love’s biggest fan. I loved love. I believed in love at first sight, true love, soul mates and all that mushy-gushy stuff the best songs and books are written about. It’s what every little girl dreams about. One day my prince will come … blah blah blah. I used to believe in love. I was in love – I’m talking head over heals, stars in your eyes in L-O-V-E. I loved you with all my heart even though I knew you weren’t the perfect one for me. Then we broke up and the emails came saying it had all been a lie. A lie? Almost three years was a lie? What should I be more upset about my broken dreams and broken heart or the fact that I fell for it? Only fools fall in love and love played me like a fiddle. So I don’t believe in love anymore. Because if you don’t believe in love there is nothing to cry about and I don’t have any more tears to cry.

– Source Unknown

Love With No Fear

I wish I had my innocence back so I could love with no fear, fully and deeply…

… like I had never been hurt.